Negotiations Skills Training

With over twenty-five years of proven industry experience, the Negotiations Training Institute of America is the recognized leader in negotiations training, consulting and performance coaching. Through public open enrollment seminars and private on-session training sessions, we have helped leading corporations, non-profit organizations and governmental agencies improve their ability to negotiate betteroutcomes for their constituencies. First-time negotiators as well as those with the greatest competitive drive and amount of first-hand experience and negotiations wisdom can benefit from our time-tested workshops. Whether focusing on negotiating a contract with a vendor or jumping in to the often-stressful car buying process to deal with a dealership, our courses provide useful skills, proven techniques and various classroom role plays to help you become more aware of negotiations that you must face on a daily basis.

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Negotiation Training for Diving Into Negotiations

Negotiations is the ultimate challenge for any leader and being good at it is essential for success. A lesson can be learned from successful competitive swimmers. They always "wet down" by splashing water from the pool onto themselves before a race in order to acclimate themselves to the specific venue. This avoids the shock syndrome when they dive in. They are already expert at their racing strokes, breathing, pacing and flip turns. Even so they always "wet down" first, if they want every competitive advantage. The purpose of this article is not only to remind you to always "wet down" before a negotiation, but also the basics to be mindful of during the process no matter how expert and experienced you are. Warm up and get mentally "wet down" by keeping the following splashes in mind:

The Dolphin Approach

You don't have to be a shark to succeed. The dolphin approach is better. The difference is one of style. While sharks try to intimidate people, causing fear and mistrust, dolphins genuinely like people. They are confident, energetic and assertive, but they don't try to manipulate their opponents with negotiations ploys and gambits. They set out to accomplish straight forward goals and often outmaneuver the sharks because they are so aware of their menacing ways.

The Biggest Fallacy

It's a fallacy that the more powerful opponent has all the advantages in a negotiation. You can use your opponent's strength to your own advantage. You gain leverage by involving the other party in the negotiations process, by making them feel they are helping to create the solution.

The Importance of Body Language

Successful negotiations is not all talk. More than half of how you are perceived is non-verbal. How you walk, carry yourself, your voice inflections, manners and demeanor all give signals to your opponent. Within the first few minutes, everyone has sized-up everyone else. Those vital first impressions set the tone for the rest of the negotiations, whether they last two hours or two days.

Start by Reducing the Tension

There is always tension at a negotiation. I've found that small talk is one of the best ways to start the wetting down process. I recall a real estate negotiation in which the Seller sent a young lawyer. I commented on his youth and that the Seller must have great confidence in him and asked him to tell me about himself and his background. He became very relaxed and friendly as a result. People love to talk about themselves. It's less threatening and a topic upon which they are expert. Usually you find a common interest, anything from stamp collecting to tennis that you can use to dwell on momentarily to establish a mutual comfort zone.

On occasion I've come to the negotiations table and the other party immediately took the "King of the Hill" attitude by saying something as, "Let's start by getting right down to business. To save time here's a list of non-negotiable items." When that occurs you can be reasonably certain you have the upper hand. Why? Because those type people fear to negotiate and negotiate out of fear, no matter the bravado they seem to radiate. They don't want to go through the process to have to see another view point that they may be persuaded to cave-in on and know they are vulnerable.

On the other hand hang onto your wallet when you hear, "Well, I'm just a country boy, not real experienced in all of this like you. So, you might have to take me by the hand through this so I can understand it a bit better."

In whatever scenario you find yourself be sure you are prepared and especially that you are acclimated by "wetting down" just before the major event begins.

Source: John Nicholas Link

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