Discover Negotiation Techniques: Negotiating Successfully With Women Can Be Tricky

Discover Negotiation Techniques Negotiating Successfully With Women Can Be Tricky

In a business environment, when men negotiate with women, sometimes the proposition can get dicey. In my writings, speeches and presentations on negotiation techniques, I've always indicated that all things being equal, women are better negotiators than men.

There's a lot to be considered in my reasoning, but at the core of my assertion is the fact that women tend to observe more of their environment as part of their negotiation techniques.

In so doing, women capture more subtle meanings and non verbal signals that occur; being very observant during negotiation techniques is one of the key ingredients to becoming a savvy negotiator.

In addition, some of the subtle nuances of negotiation techniques, touching as an example, cannot be applied in the same manner when men negotiate with women, as when men are negotiating with one another. It's been established that touching during negotiations is a very strong tool you can use during the negotiation.

When using negotiation techniques sometimes, some men possess a misogynistic attitude towards women. If a woman negotiates too tough, she's considered to be a (fill in the blink); she's too inflexible, too stringent, and too harsh. If a woman negotiates and she's very easy going, she's considered to be too soft, a push-over, not quite ready for 'prime time'.

When a woman that is a savvy negotiator uses negotiation techniques, she uses all of those preconceived notions to her advantage. That's why from a man's perspective, negotiating with a women and not recognizing the inherent advantages she has can be a very losing proposition.

From a man's perspective, don't treat a woman like a little girl when negotiating. In negotiation techniques, she's not your daughter, nor is she your kid sister. Treat her with the same level of respect and caution that you would treat a man that happens to be a savvy negotiator.

If you've done your background gathering of information (you should always gather information about someone before entering into negotiations with them) you will have insight into her character and makeup. If you know her to be a tough negotiator, seek to understand why she possesses those negotiation techniques. Try to establish if she's over compensating, because she's a woman.

When women negotiate with one another, everything being equal (i.e. they like one another, respect each other's position, etc.) they tend to be more civil towards one another. That may have something to do with the absence of testosterone. Women tend to be less aggressive throughout the negotiation and they will tend to ease into the negotiation techniques by taking more time to know and understand one another. What they won't do is sit down and try to hammer out a quick deal that leaves the other person in a less than fair position.

It's already been mentioned in this writing that women are more astutely aware of the subtle nuances that occur during negotiations. When women negotiate with one another the small inclinations that occur in the form of information transference can be very telling. By that I mean, since women are more intuitive, sometimes they can sense the changing position of another woman during the negotiation techniques and not be fearful of adjusting to her demands. That's a trait that all negotiators should seek to acquire, but some men when negotiating with women feel as though they can't give in, because "they can't lose to a woman".

Recognize and adjust for the fact that women negotiate differently than men. If you adjust your negotiation style to match the person you're negotiating with, there's a higher probability the negotiation will turn out to be more successful.